Archive for January, 2005

Bad Girls vs. Good Girls

January 31, 2005

LOL! This is too funny… Items in Italics are nothing personal to any of the exes… just things I definitely feel strongly about at this point in my life… either for or against… you guys be the judge… BTW, so I don’t get accused of being one-sided, here’s Lainey’s rebuttal. ­čÖé

There’s an old joke that goes: Good girls say, “No;” bad girls ask, “When?” It’s the classic dichotomy for the male psyche – madonna vs. whore, Mary Ann vs. Ginger, housewife vs. ho, homebody vs. party girl. Which of the two is better?

As men, we’re instantly aroused by the Pamela Andersons of the world, but inside we know we could never tame – much less trust – a female like this. Instinctively we seek out more normal, down-to-earth women when we’re thinking of marriage and children.

Still, it’s a problem that never goes away. We want the best of both worlds: a princess on the street and a whore in the bedroom. Someone who is nice and treats us with respect, yet who acts like a wildcat in heat between the sheets. So just what are the advantages and disadvantages of dating bad girls and good girls? And is it possible to somehow combine the two types into one perfect woman?

First, let’s look at some of the qualities embodied by the Bad Girl:

The Goods on the Bad Girl

She’s fun
She can party all night, drink herself into a stupor and still get up the next day and be ready for more. She’ll laugh and flirt, and make you feel like a man.

She’s exciting
Bad girls are walking adrenaline rushes. For her, life is a roller coaster ride, and it’ll get your blood singing just to be along for the trip. Bad girls never have time for introspection or depression – they’re too busy grabbing the world by the horns.

She craves sex
The bad girl loves men and makes no bones about it. She’s more than happy to fulfill any fantasy you can dream up. She’s the kind who will tear up the sheets while she’s screaming out her seventh orgasm in a row (you’ll feel like you’re the king of the sexual world). And you won’t have to deal with any head games – she’s more than happy to seduce you 24/7.

She’s eye candy
Bad girls are usually very attractive with jaw-dropping figures – the ultimate “hot babes.” They know how to walk the walk and strut their stuff. They get off on being the center of male attention. A bad girl loves plunging necklines, bare midriffs, high heels, skirts hemmed at mid-thigh, strapless anything, and sexy lingerie (if she wears any underwear at all).

She ups your status
When you have a stunner like this on your arm, all other men are jealous and women are intrigued, and immediately your stud rating soars into the stratosphere. You’ll be the stuff of legends when you regale your buddies with tales from your bedroom.

The Bads on the Bad Girl

She’s untrustworthy
All men want her and she knows it, and she’s definitely a serial flirter. Because she’s such a sexual animal, she’s apt to seduce anyone who strikes her fancy, so you shouldn’t expect a bad girl to be loyal.

She’s dangerous
She’s the type who will go 100 in a 30 mph zone just because she likes the rush. She may be into drugs or excessive alcohol consumption. She’s spontaneous, unpredictable and wild.

She makes a bad partner
Bad girls are extremely self-obsessed and selfish. They think about one person: themselves. They’re extravagant and will spend their last dime on themselves. They don’t settle down comfortably. For these reasons, they usually make lousy wives and mothers, and rarely survive lifelong relationships.

She is expensive
No low-maintenance here – from day one she’ll be looting your wallet for expensive meals, trips and jewelry. The typical bad girl sets a very high price on the use of her vagina, and if you don’t want to cough up the cash, there’ll be plenty of guys panting in the wings to pay her price.

The Goods on the Good Girl

She’s wholesome and nice
A good girl is rarely bitchy or “empowered.” She’s pleasant to be around and has a positive attitude toward life. She’ll go out of her way to help you or take care of you when you’re sick, and when problems arise, she’ll discuss them calmly, instead of flying into a rage or screaming at you just because you’re a “man.”

She’s a clean slate
With her limited sexual experience, a good girl doesn’t have a lot of men to compare you to and won’t expect you to be a world-class lover.

She’s unlikely to cheat on you
Good girls tend to be homebodies, not party girls. Because she doesn’t present herself in the same sexually-alluring manner that a bad girl does, you won’t have to worry about a lot of other guys coming on to her. A good girl wants to find the one true love of her life and stay with him until death do them part, instead of seducing half the male population before she gets too old.

She’s often your best friend
She genuinely enjoys your company and gives back to you as much as she takes. When you’re gone, she misses you; when you’re at home, she showers you with attention.

She’s easier on finances
Good girls can rate low on the maintenance scale – they’re much more likely to share dating expenses (just because it’s the right thing to do), and if you get married, she’ll happily throw her paycheck in with yours to pay the mortgage and bills.

She makes a good wife & mother
The typical good girl is practical, down-to-earth and nurturing. She loves children. She usually comes from a good family and wants to carry on those family values in her own life.

The Bads on the Good Girl

She’s about as exciting as vanilla
Since she’d rather stay at home reading a book than go out partying, life with a good girl can be a bit uneventful.

She can be a sexual dud
Good girls are often boring in bed, either from lack of experience or lack of desire. Sex with her is predictable. She rarely inspires lust and will probably wait for her man to initiate lovemaking. This can leave the typical guy very unfulfilled, his gaze straying toward that bad girl over there with the unfettered nipples and the long wraparound legs.

She’s fashionably comfortable
She wears her hair pulled back and little make-up. She prefers sweats and tennis shoes to mini skirts and pumps. Oftentimes, you can forget about thong underwear.

The Good to Bad

So the question remains: Which one should you choose? The obvious answer is that the perfect woman would embody the best of both of these types – the niceness and loyalty of the good girl and the sexual abandon of the bad girl.

While such women may exist naturally out there, it’s more likely that, to achieve this ideal, you’ll have to train a good girl to be bad (because there’s no way a bad girl is going to be good).


Well, this may not be an easy task, because many good girls have been brainwashed by mom, church or school into thinking that “bad” is inherently wrong. So the trick is to encourage her natural sexuality. Make her comfortable with sex. Romance her. Tell her how sexy she is when she seduces you or fulfills your fantasies – or how satisfying it is to fulfill hers. Let her understand that great sex between the two of you can create an awesome bond, and that it is – ultimately – “good.”

So while bad girls can be exciting, they’re usually only worth it in the short term. If you can find a good girl and turn her into a sexual animal, you may just have found the perfect woman. And pretty soon, your good girl may be asking, “When?”


About Me

January 27, 2005

(Trying to centralize everything here… This blog was original posted at MySpace, hence the reason why it doesn’t really match the theme of this site, but oh well… enjoy!)

Hmm… it’s hard to do this without feeling like you’re boasting a bit don’tyathink? Anyway, here’s my feeble attempt at trying to describe some of what drives me and makes me who I am: Passionate, Ambitious, Honest, Loyal, Friendly, Open-Minded, Optimistic, Dependable, Considerate, Mindful of others’ feelings, Respectful, Humble, Appreciative, Confident (yet not cocky), Kind (but not weak), Spontaneous (yet not reckless). I’m almost always happy and in a good, silly/fun mood and rarely ever curse (except in traffic! Ha ha!). Family always comes first for me and they know I will do anything for them. Friends define a person and I am lucky and thankful to have the ones I have. To the one I love, I am always faithful, affectionate, chivalrous, caring, understanding, patient and giving. Some people tell me too much so, but I never believed that there is such a thing if you really, truly love someone. I’ve loved and been loved, hurt and been hurt, but through it all I always view it as life lessons that only make me stronger and smarter than I was before.

I like to surround myself with positive peeps and don’t care for negativity from close-minded, judgmental individuals. I also keep my distance from arrogant/conceited peeps or people who choose to bring themselves down by doing unproductive, detrimental things. I’m all about positivity and doing good for yourself and those close to you. I am a man of my word… a man of action. If I say I’m going to do something, I do it. I can’t stand when people are flaky and not dependable. I have an awesome family and a core group of friends who are second to none and am always grateful for everything I’ve ever been blessed with… I don’t ever take anything for granted. In addition to striving to be a top-notch success in the work world, I also strive to be the best dad, husband and family man in the home world someday as well. Hope that wasn’t too much of an overshare for y’all. Yeah, and you fellas (if you even got this far) can stop barfing now… Ya b@stids! *grin*

Sitting Courtside

January 26, 2005

So this morning I log into my email to find multiple messages, two of which are from JO and Lau telling me how ugly I am for being in this pic. What are friends for eh? Just got into work too and everybody here is harassing me┬ácause I guess it’s on the front page of the sports section in the regular paper edition too. Anyway, this is tooooo funny! Guess I’m gonna have to hear about it all day today. *sigh* Thanks a lot to the guys at the Honolulu Advertiser for the unrequested attention. *grumbling under breath*

P.S. Other than that, courtside seats rule!

Jake Sottos