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Online Dating Follies – from the Female Perspective [Guest Blog by tweetpeep22]

March 18, 2010

by tweetpeep22

Dating… Something not to worry about in high school, something to try in college, and hopefully get better at in your 20s… For me? That’s not exactly the route I took, lol. I didn’t date much at all. One bf for all of high school… and I spent a good portion of my 20s in an unhealthy relationship… So now at 30 what am I to expect in the dating scene? Well, let’s just say at this point I think I’ve kept an open mind and my open mindedness actually started a year or so ago when friends encouraged me to try online dating. I’m clueless when it comes to dating to begin with (a family member even gave me a dating for dummies book) and to jump into online dating seemed scary. My previous experiences included just meeting someone thru friends… and online dating meant meeting a complete stranger thru the computer.

So just starting a profile on this site was QUITE tedious. After getting thru the long questionnaire and getting thru all the formalities of the site, (working on your profile, multiple choice questions, and EVEN essay questions — lots to do, right?), you can finally communicate freely via email.

But regardless of all that “formality,” what really makes all the difference is meeting in person. Chemistry is an important factor in meeting someone in person. Sure, emailing is a good way to get to know someone, but what is it like to actually spend time with them? Some people say that chemistry is overrated and can be developed over time, but I also have to argue that chemistry can’t be forced either.

So over time I met a handful of matches in person. I don’t really call it a date since I feel like “date” is such a loaded word, lol. It’s more of what I like to call “meet and greets.”

Now in the spirit of open mindedness, I’ve gone on meet and greets that have turned out to be interesting… I can’t help but wonder if they’re answering the questions honestly or giving answers that they think I want to hear. And the only reason I started realizing this was that when I started getting to know the guys by either email or talking on the phone or meeting in person, they weren’t the same person they portrayed themself to be online.

One of the first matches reminded me of one of my uncles which was just weird. In emailing and in phone conversations we got along well I thought, but when we met in person I couldn’t help but think he looked like a younger version of my uncle, lol. And that’s not a jab at the guy or my uncle, but even his mannerisms and non-verbal communications were TOO similar to that of my uncle. It was uncanny and just too weird.

One match wanted to meet for coffee and then go to the gym. well now, that’s not exactly what I had in mind as something to do to get to know someone. But in the spirit of open mindedness, why not? He had his own specific regimen that he wanted to stick to so I guess to keep the conversation and getting to know you stuff going I followed him around the gym, but got bored with that and started to do my own thing. But in between he’d ask questions about what recipes I know how to cook, if I wanted to join his non-profit group, and if my friends were ugly. That question bothered me more than anything, what kind of question is that to even ask? When I didn’t answer, he pressed on, that I would have to know whether or not my friends were prettier than me or not and I just sneered at the question. Granted the way he talked mostly about his non-profit group made me feel like he was more interested in recruiting me to join it.

And another meet and greet revolved around this guy’s sleeping schedule and groceries in the fridge. He preferred to sleep early and actually be in bed by 9 pm, which required dinner to be a bit early. However, dinner was changed to just meeting up for dessert around 7:30 pm because he had leftovers in the fridge that he didn’t want to go to waste. Then I wondered why he even made plans for dinner then if he had rice he didn’t want to spoil and had to be in bed by 9 pm?

Some meet and greets never really get off the ground and just end when the emails stop. Once someone sent me what I can only believe to be a “drunk email” because not one sentence made sense. It was hilarious. Someone also addressed me as milf in an email and well that wasn’t exactly something I found appropriate.

Haven’t we ALL heard the phrase “small world” or “this rock is just too small?” Well that applies to online dating, too. With the majority of the people I was matched with there was some small world connection. hmm… I’ve been matched w/someone who I didn’t know graduated high school with me, a friend’s co-worker, a friend’s ex-in-law, or even my friend’s brother!

Oh well, it’s not to say that all my experiences had a weird twist to it. I did have some fairly good experiences, too… One felt like I was with a good friend more than anything and we hung out with a few times, but that would be as far as it went. And there were meet and greets where the fella was just not interested in me and that’s to be expected. But in all cases, it helped me learn more about myself. I learned what I liked SPECIFICALLY about a guy by trying to look at the positives in each meet and greet. It’s not as simple as finding a guy that can make me laugh. It’s definitely not as simple as the commercials make it seem.

I also learned to take the bad (disappointment) in with the good. Of course it made me realize that what I may have wanted in my 20s is not exactly what I want in my 30s. I just started my 30s… but I do feel different than my 20s. I’m more confident in where my life is going to some degree; I have a career that I find interesting and enjoy and I know I’m trying to do the best I can with my FULL TIME job as mom – that’s the most I can hope for myself right now. 🙂

In trying all this online dating, part of me wondered how I was going to explain this to my dad, lol. I’ve heard his opinion of online dating. He thinks there are crazies out there on the Internet. my dad will always be a dad and worry for me & my sibs, even in our 40s. but I guess I have learned not to judge something I never tried. So at least I can say I tried it. And hopefully convince my dad to try it, too ha ha ha…

The Guest Blog Schedule:

  • THU 03/11 – Chicken Grease – “TheGrease and TheBus”
  • FRI 03/12 – kuya.d – “I’m So Over It”
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  • TUE 03/16 – frankie – “The Curse of the Murse”
  • WED 03/17 – kako mochi – “Where in Oregon is kako mochi?”
  • THU 03/18 – tweetpeep22 – “Online Dating Follies – Female Perspective”
  • FRI 03/19 – S-Ticket – “Online Dating Follies – Male Perspective”
  • MON 03/22 – tita leerz – “The Hawaii Visitor’s Survival Guide”
  • TUE 03/23 – skycastles – “Otanjoubi Omedetou Gozaimasu Kurosawa-sama!”
  • WED 03/24 – hemajang – “Where in Hawaii is hemajang?”
  • THU 03/25 – uncle jimmy – “Grab One, Leave One, and Get Reel…”

See and Eat Seattle – Part I

November 1, 2007

Part I | Part II

Ever notice that if you combine the words See and Eat, you (almost) get Seattle? Not quite sure what “tle” stands for just yet, but gimme some time and I’ll figure it out. For now, let’s just go with what nature, er, make that Doc Maynard has given us when he named Seattle in 1853 after chief Noah Sealth. Let’s See and Eat Seattle shall we?

In addition to being recognized for their coffee, the Space Needle and grunge music, Seattle is also well known for Pike Place Market, the public market in Belltown (downtown) overlooking Elliott Bay. Fittingly, that’s where we shall start our feast-a-thon.

Pike Place Market
Pike Place Market

Now of course you can go to Pike Place Market for some of the freshest seafood in town, but it’s the little hole-in-the-wall type discoveries that will keep you coming back. Russian bakery Piroshky Piroshky is one of those places.

Piroshky Piroshky
Piroshky Piroshky

Since opening their doors in October of 1992, Piroshky Piroshky has been serving up these little Russian treats to many locals and tourists alike.

Piroshky Piroshky Goodies
Piroshky Piroshky Goodies

At any time on any given day, it is common to see a line forming out the door for patient patrons. According to a dated sign hanging on the wall, their best sellers are:

  • Apple Cinnamon Roll
  • Cheddar Cheese Roll
  • Potato Mushroom & Onion
  • Potato & Cheese
  • Smoked Salmon Pate
  • Cranberry Apple Roll
  • Marzipan Roll
  • Smoked Mozzarella Broccoli & Mushroom

Smoked Mozzarella Broccoli & Mushroom - Whole
Smoked Mozzarella Broccoli & Mushroom – Whole

Smoked Mozzarella Broccoli & Mushroom - Eaten
Smoked Mozzarella Broccoli & Mushroom – Eaten

Chicken Mushroom and Rice - Whole
Chicken Mushroom and Rice – Whole

Chicken Mushroom and Rice - Eaten
Chicken Mushroom and Rice – Eaten

Apple Cinnamon Roll
Apple Cinnamon Roll

Owner Oliver Kotelnikov says that the piroshkies are baked in different shapes to help the bakers remember what is stuffed inside of them.

Piroshky preparation
Piroshky preparation

A cute concept for a cute and delicious eatery.

Piroshky Piroshky
Pike Place Market
1908 Pike Place
Seattle, WA 98101 (map)
(206) 441-6068
Open seven days a week from 8am to 6pm

Also well known and seemingly popular amongst the locals is a French bakery, fittingly named Le Panier Very French Bakery.

Le Panier Very French Bakery
Le Panier Very French Bakery

Due to the time of day (late afternoon/early evening), we were not able to get a good assessment of their full menu options, but their Tarte aux Pommes (Apple Tart) was tarte aux tasty.

Tarte aux Pommes (Apple Tart)
Tarte aux Pommes (Apple Tart)

Le Panier Very French Bakery
Pike Place Market
1902 Pike Place
Seattle, WA 98101 (map)
(206) 441-3669
Mon-Sat 7am-6 pm; Sunday 8am-5pm

Next on the Pike’s hitlist is Beecher’s Handmade Cheese CafĂ©.

Beecher's Handmade Cheese Café
Beecher’s Handmade Cheese CafĂ©

Primarily serving as a cheese factory (yes, they actually make their cheese here!) and a deli/market where they sell their assortment of artisan cheeses and cheese related products, the small café up front serves up deli style sandwiches, soups and their award-winning Mac & Cheese dish.

Beecher's Handmade Cheese Café sign
Beecher’s Handmade Cheese CafĂ© sign

Though a bit on the pricey side ($4.60 for an 8 oz container or $7.95 for a 16 oz container), the rich, cheesy flavor soon makes you forget.

Mac & Cheese from Beecher's Handmade Cheese Café
Mac & Cheese from Beecher’s Handmade Cheese CafĂ©

Great for a late afternoon snack!

Beecher’s Handmade Cheese CafĂ©
Pike Place Market
1600 Pike Place
Seattle, WA 98101 (map)
(206) 956-1964
Open 9am-6pm daily

“Enough with the snacks awwwready!” you say? “I want a real meal outside of Pike’s!” say you? Say no more fussypants. Say no more.

We’ll take you to a uniquely Italian sandwich restaurant called Salumi’s located in the heart of Pioneer Square on 3rd Avenue.

The long line outside of Salumi's
The long line outside of Salumi’s

Known primarily for their cured meats, this little delicatessen serves up tasty, but costly sandwiches using their famous cured meats as the core. Once a favorite of Seattlites on Yelp!, it’s cooled down a bit, but still boasts a 4.5 rating (out of 5) based on 65 reviews.

We scored prime street parking right in front of Salumi, but, as expected, our wait was significant, causing me to have to re-feed the meter, numerous times. LOL!

Parking meter tickets
Parking meter tickets

Once you get in the door, the excitement starts to fill you (a sensation that always occurs when you have to wait a long time for something you anticipate). You’ll notice the cured meats hanging in the window to your right.

Cured Meats at Salumi
Cured Meats at Salumi

As you approach the Subway-esque sandwich making area, do not dilly dally. These sandwich makers seem to just want to keep the line moving and expect you to know what you’re doing. We quickly and frantically ordered the Prosciutto, Fig, Goat Cheese ($9.50) and the day’s special of Fennel Sausage with Cheese ($9.50).

Prosciutto, Fig, Goat Cheese ($9.50). One half was requested with no tomatoes FYI.
Prosciutto, Fig, Goat Cheese ($9.50). One half was requested with no tomatoes FYI.

Fennel Sausage with Cheese ($9.50)
Fennel Sausage with Cheese ($9.50)

My only complaints (aside from the price tag) are the overly tough/hard/crunchy bread (I couldn’t even fit it in my mouth to crunch down on), and the tight and crammy seating situation. The wait and ambience weren’t too bad, especially knowing that we were enjoying one of Seattle’s favorite lunch spots (2003 Best of Citysearch winner, 2004 Where Magazine Chef’s Choice Dining Award).

Salumi Artisan Cured Meats
309 Third Ave South
Seattle, WA 98104 (map)
(206) 621 8772
Tuesday-Friday 11am-4pm

Before this becomes a Harry Potter-like novel, I think I’ll end it here and pick it up again next month for part 2. Still on the hitlist for part 2 are Paseo’s Caribbean Restaurant, Salty’s on Alki and Umi Sake House. On the possibly-to-be-mentioned list are: Shiro’s Sushi, Joey’s, Fox Sports Bar & Grill, Kiku Tempura House, Ram Restaurant & Bighorn Brewery, and of course, everyone’s favorite… Ohana’s!

Until then, your homework assignment is to help me think of what the “tle” in Seattle stands for. Sea and Eat Seattle Part 2 coming right up! *ding*

Part I | Part II